Start Each Day With the F-Word

I was startled out of sleep the other morning by my 5-year-old daughter Ava. It was 6 a.m. and still dark as she ran into our bedroom screaming the ‘F’ word.

The word flew out of her mouth as if it was launched by NASA.

 

"FRIDAY! Today Is Friday!!!!"

What a great word… Friday.

Do you remember back when you were in school, how happy you were to finally get to Friday?

Unfortunately, for far too many entrepreneurs, the word has lost all its power. Even worse, that special "Friday-feeling" has also disappeared from our busy lives.

Yet, for self-described cubicle slaves and school kids alike, no matter how heavy the burden or workload, there is always Friday. For them it’s more than just a day; it’s an attitude.

  • Friday is freedom from worry.
  • Friday is fun, which should be part of every day.
  • Friday moves us forward.
  • Friday feels fantastic.

Any day can be Friday. It’s a landmark event that signifies triumph: It’s time to race to the FINISH (another favorite ‘F’ word) and begin the process of recovery from a batch of productive work.

I’m sure you’ve used the ‘F’ word on more than one occasion as your grow your business. Sometimes just one word like that can determine your attitude for the entire day.

In my coaching practice I’ve noticed that most entrepreneurs have completely lost the special feeling that comes from the anticipation of downtime after completing a task or project. It’s as if running their business has become a never-ending marathon with no finish line whatsoever.

If you don’t have a finish line, how will you know when the race is won?

So, what about you? How many ‘Friday’ moments have you experienced as an online entrepreneur?

What other words trigger action and emotion as you sprint to complete your projects and achieve your business goals?

I’m no wordsmith, but I’m beginning to pay more attention to language. I give my kids credit for this gift as they teach their dad a thing or two about ‘nice words’ and "bad words."

Watching my daughters learn new vocabulary words, and form their speech patterns, I marvel at the way their minds work. There’s a lot going on inside the brain of a 2-year-old when she tries to say “hippopotamus” for the first time. But the result of her accomplishment, however tortured the pronunciation, is a joy to behold.

I’ve also learned the power of words – their meaning and the images they project.

Some words hurt, others bring smiles. At times, simple words, and the rhythms they create in our minds when spoken, can be quite soothing.

Here are some examples:

Relax…

Replenish…

Recharge…

Feels kind of nice, doesn’t it? Now, think about the meaning of those words and the images they place in our minds.

Relax… slow down, lie down, kick up your feet. Feel the ocean breeze and the warmth of the sun on your skin.

Replenish… cool water on a hot summer day, a refreshing dip in the pool after a long day at work. The feeling of nourishment we get after downing a fruit smoothie.

Recharge… the kick of an espresso to start your morning, the turn of an ignition key and the roar of a supercharged engine. You’re built for speed, baby, and ready for action.

Make it a point to incorporate these kinds of words into your business day today.

I know I’ve been talking a lot about information overload recently, but it’s important for you to realize how it will feel when you declare victory over it.

Where once there was information anxiety, now there is recovery.

Recovery is a very important word for all of us. And I am not talking about the type of recovery you get from a 12-step program either (Sorry, Lindsay Lohan fans).

Instead, I am talking about a time where you actually recharge well enough so you can come back with even more energy than before.

When you stop and think about it – and I strongly encourage you to do so – stress followed by recovery stimulates growth. Without recovery, continual stress leads to burnout or breakdown.

If you’ve ever been interested in weight lifting, you know what I mean. When you work out at the gym, you take your muscles past the point of failure. Then you must give your muscles enough time to recover so that they can rebuild and be better prepared for similar stress.

When training your body, if you don’t fully recover you’ll end up overtraining it. The net result is you get weaker instead of stronger: The exact opposite of your original goal.

This happens emotionally, too. Think about the traumatic events that were once devastating, but that you now recognize as empowering: Family crisis, the death of a loved one, the break-up of a relationship, the failing of a business venture, the loss of a job, etc.

The reason for this renewed strength is that you have fully recovered from the trauma and are now better prepared to handle similar stressful situations. But this time, you’ll handle them much better.

If you don’t allow for recovery, and you get hit with another crisis, it can be demoralizing for you, your family, friends and business.

If you’ve read the biographies of as many successful entrepreneurs as I have, then you’ve definitely seen this pattern of trauma, recovery, and victory in their lives. So many successful people go through some horrible reversal, but they recover, and later they’re stronger because of it.

Often, many battles are lost before winning the war.

That’s why the concept of recovery is vital to our growth. And you should strive to incorporate it in all that you do.

So how does this translate into your own life?

It means for every 14-hour workday filled with adrenaline and the promise of financial success, there must be rest and recovery if you want to be at your best.

It also means if you are struggling with information anxiety you’ll never get to experience recovery (and its resulting growth) because there’s no finish line – no end in sight. The race or pace just never lets up.

That’s why a “Just in Time” approach to information is superior to “Just in Case” methodology. By acting upon information as we need it, rather than hoarding information just in case we may need it, we train ourselves to be more efficient and successful. Because there is a finish line, there is a tangible goal by which to measure our growth.

Remember those soothing words: relax, replenish and recharge.

I’ll add another: RESPOND to this blog post and share your entrepreneurial challenges.

Let me know how your “recovery” stories have helped sharpen your business focus.

Some of the toughest times in our lives become the most inspirational. Some of our “lowest lows” provide our greatest life lessons.

Remember, Friday is a metaphor for recovery. With information overload, there is no real recovery, but there can be relief. And with no recovery comes burnout or breakdown. Relief brings its own reward.

As you experience “Friday” every day, let me know how your Friday moments are fueling your business growth.

Your attitude may be your greatest asset as you move forward.

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  • http://www.GlobalFamilyEducation.com Kay

    One thing I have learned from over 40 years of being “self employed” is to schedule myself in, each week, before I EVER schedule anyone else in…if not, LIFE will eat up the week and “no time” will be left to Relax….Refresh….Regenerate.

    Rich, I so appreciate you being such a REAL person and sharing your life and wonderful ideas with us…

    Blessings to you and your family,

    Kay

  • http://www.askthelovecoach.com Dagny

    Where do I download the Age Doctrine??Thank you….

  • ritha maharaj

    Wow. I am so committed to my family, work and sacrificing to make my husband’s business that I forgot all about Friday, Fun and Fantasy. I eat, drink sleep episodes and dramas that surround me. After your articles and others little write ups made me flip over and realised that in everything there is no ME!!! From friss friday, I am special and I owe myself to let loose and enjoy Fridays and make time for me.

    Thanks for inspiration inspiration inspiration….

  • green4good

    Thanks for the glorious reminder of anticipation, knowing that when something ends, something else begins. Yes, information overload has engulfed me to the point of dispair at times, the feeling of “knowing” I can never catch up. Yet, when you decide enough is enough, set that cut off point where you step back & take a break, it can release the anxiety that was self-imposed & allow for a fresh perspective when you return to the task.

    I’ve just returned from a 5-day break of sorts. After deciding to set time limits for online time & business over several days, & focusing on enjoyment with family & friends for most of the time, I learned new things about the people in my life, new ways I can use my time more efficiently, & had so much fun with my son Josh, I can hardly wait to do it again!

    Kids watch everything we do, & the most important thing that came out of this is that I found out my son wants his own business, at 11-years-old, & wants to work smart to achieve his goals. WOW, if I could have had someone to work with me at that age!!! Here’s hoping through our mutual support, we’ll increase our success & our times together for FUN!!!

    Thanks again, Rich! Your insights are always inspiring!!!!!!!

  • http://www.successmail.net Bob

    Great article! Right on the money….

    I just finished reading “The Art of Learning” by Josh Waitzkin- he talked a lot about stress and recovery in terms of learning new things (expanding the mind!)- good book. It would seem that the idea applies to learning, creativity, health, and who knows what else…a true key to life and success.

    THANKS!

    Bob

  • Andrew Foss

    I’m with the first poster – I start out the week with a big health smile and a

    “Happy Monday!”

    Many people think I am just being silly – but that smile and that positive statement are often what I need to hear from myseld just to get through the morning.

    TGIT – Thank God It’s Tuesday – and Monday is over!

  • http://www.profits-in-hand.com Darwin

    Freedom Friday
    Sexy Saturday
    Sacred Sunday
    Magical Monday
    Tranquil Tuesday
    Whimsical Wednesday
    Traveling Thursday

  • http://thewebcoach.net Donna Payne

    I had a part-time job in high school and BEGGED my boss to let me have Fridays off. He reluctantly agreed as long as I busted my tail the rest of the week.

    To this day – I STILL – slack off on Friday. It is MY day only for ME to do what I want. YAY FRIDAY!

  • http://www.rezwealthfinancial.com Yvonne Finn

    Hi Rich,
    Thanks for this Fabulous and Fun article that reminds us of the reason(s) why we work so hard in the first place.
    We say we want to enjoy the good things in life, yet we never seem to take the time to do so.

    I am so glad that your daughter was able to share her exhuberance with you that Friday.
    Many children are growing up without being able to connect with their parents on any level.

    Good for you, Rich, you are a great example of “being there” when it matters.

    I wish us all continued success in our chosen endeavours.

    Yvonne

  • http://www.glutenfreedietbook.com frann

    Your email came just at a “Friday” moment for me – for the first time in I really don’t know how long, I actually reached a point where there was Nothing Waiting To Be Done!

    How is this possible? I put it down to your great advice, so that now, by focusing on what actually needs to be done, and eliminating the rest, there’s no more overload.

    I felt a bit kinda “disloyal” at first unsubscribing from some newsletters I’ve been getting for a long time. But I can’t read them all. And news about “site topics” I just file until I need it, instead of slavishly reading it all. Phew. Much better.

    Thanks.

  • http://www.The60DayExperiment.com David Perdew

    Rich -

    Excellent blog post! I had totally forgotten that “Friday” feeling.

    Friday has a different meaning for me now, unfortunately – “Ah, it’s an opportunity to work uninterrupted for a couple of days!”

    Not so good. I’m really glad your daughter reminded me that fun and rest is important too.

    Thanks,

    David Perdew

  • Brian Parkhurst

    While your article was filled with probing inspiration (as usual) and the many comments were inspiring, encouraging, humorous, and thought provoking as well – as I found myself in a particularly low place due to lack of sleep and no recent small successes – only Stephen Bray (another night owl) caused a burst of much needed laughter.

    Thanks for making this forum available to us.

  • http://reviewlicious.com Anita

    It’s easy to forget the Friday feeling when you work from home on your own business. Things snowball so fast that, before you know it every single day is a race – and you’re right – you feel like you’re never winning!

    Thankfully my mother ingrained in me that working hard is a lot easier if you also make sure you’re getting sufficient recovery time. So, I have tried (although, I can’t say it’s been easy) to implement a rule in my work schedule.

    I don’t do ‘work’ work on the week-end, and during the week after 9pm. There are exceptions, as with every rule, but I try to keep to it most times. That way my brain knows that once it gets to 9pm or the week-end, it’s rest and do what you want time…

    It helps keep the sanity…

    Oh, and a very useful tip from your course – outsource, outsource outsource :o)

    Thanks for the great post and all the good comments it inspired.

  • michael

    hey rich, like the comment from one lady…. when she gets up every morning and has a shower, and shouts “thank god it’s tuesday”…. then “shouts i’m a money magnet”…. i’m going to try that in the morning, sounds a great way to start your day.
    thanks for the good advice…. Michael

  • http://hpshappy.blogspot.com HP van Duuren

    Thanks for your post,

    Actually I still associate Friday with ‘My Freedom Day’

    Because besides my Job, Friday is the day that I have for myself as an Internet Marketeer. I usually attempt to work on my Business in a ‘Relaxed’ way. Reading ebooks about Internet Marketing while laying on the Beach listening to Music and taking a swim etc. etc. In such a RELAXED STATE I usually get the best ideas for my Business. (In fact one of my first Syndicated Columns was titled: “RELAX”)

    BTW thanks for reminding me to take a ‘Just in Time’ approach instead of a ‘Just in Case’ Methodology. Nowaday’s with the help of the ‘Search Engines’ such a ‘Just in Time’ approach is good attainable.

    For what ‘Challenges’ is concerned – Although the eBook I Wrote, in itself isn’t about ‘Though Times’ at all – it has been Inspired by a serious ‘Challenge’ I experienced, Infact this eBook is a little ‘UnMarketing-wise’ because I didn’t really start with a specific ‘Target Market’ in mind when I begun to write it, I just felt I had to write it and begun to write it. Afterwards in an attempt to ‘Patch-up’ this ‘Mistake’ I created “HP’s Happy Blogspot” where I use my little eBook as the Basis for a lot of the Posts, and to tell people about this litte eBook. Because I really do think that people can benefit from my rather unusual experience.

    Since every ‘dis-advantage’ has it’s ‘advantage’, I had the ‘advantage’ to have had an experience that is rather unusual, creating the advantage of having been able to receive the unique gift of having been able to share the ‘Fruits’ of this rather unique and unusual ‘Expertise’.

    All the Best,
    HPvD.

  • http://www.breakthrough-meditation.com Kellie

    I was doing some marketing research the other day on this exact topic. One of the keywords I chose was depression. I was blowen away by the sheer number of searches in january yahoo search engine.
    It was over 370,000. Most great keywords are around 60 -70,000.
    That is 6 times more searches.
    Depression is a direct result from not enough “Friday moments and joy in our lives”.
    I have spent the last 15 years helping and healing people who don’t read and take action on those warning signs of stress and frustration.

    Friday moments create your dreams, the best dicisions are always made by a relaxed happy soul.

    Enjoy your life and you will be very suprised the rewards you receive!
    Thanks so much for bring this important process into the light.

    Love & light
    Kellie
    http://www.breakthrough-meditation.com

  • http://www.rajfoodts.net Raj

    Hi Rich!

    FRIDAY…For me it’s like “FRY DAY”…Plan to Fry creative tasks for weekends. After all it’s a base of Refreshment activites for 2 days.

    Raj.
    http://www.rajfoods.net

  • http://www.croz.com.au Croz

    Hi Rich

    Great article. I do a whole talk on what we can learn from kids. Also one on what they can learn from us. It is always a two way street and we must always remember that we can always get another deal, but we cannot get another family.

    Abundance to All

    Croz

    CLICK HERE TO WATCH AND LEARN FROM CROZ

  • Dalora Anderson

    Hi Rich,

    Very good article. I have always worked 9-5 Monday thru Friday, Saturday was for play and Sunday for God. Now as a home-based owner I work 12 noon (when I get up each day) until 2 or 3 am Mon. thru Fri. with breaks for food and other relaxations. I still play on Saturday and give Sunday to God. (I do no online work Sat. or Sun.)

    God Bless all,

    Ms DEA
    Take Paycations, not Vacations
    http://www.ytb.com/alldeals4travel

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