Respect or Attention? Take Your Pick

Remember Rodney Dangerfield? He was the great nightclub comedian who can’t get no respect.

Dangerfield built a persona and a lucrative career on self-putdowns about his looks, his weight, his wife, his sex-life, his career you name it:Rodney.jpg

My mother had morning sickness after I was born


I could tell that my parents hated me. My bath toys were a toaster and a radio


With my dog I get no respect. He keeps barking at the front door. He doesn’t want to go out. He wants me to leave!

Dangerfield made it funny and profitable to get no respect. And what he didn’t receive in respect, he earned in our attention and our laughter.

He was lucky.

Many writers and artists display great talents and earn critical acclaim (respect) from their peers, but little in the way of global attention or income. They dedicate their lives to the arts while foregoing the attention necessary to make them rich and famous.

Not a bad path, if you choose to take it. But is that really what you want from your online business?

Does your business command respect? And if so, is the respect it receives paying off in attention? Or are you running a Rodney Dangerfield business that gets no respect at all?

Is your business, like so much artwork, created solely for you and your benefit, but not for capturing the attention, respect and sales of a wide audience?

Of course, I ask these questions within the framework of our discussions about the Attention Age.

We tend to give attention to those who have our respect: Teachers, world leaders, famous athletes and Hollywood celebrities just to name a few. They all have our attention and many hold it because we respect who they are or what they represent sometimes both.

For every Princess Diana, Michael Jordan and Oprah Winfrey there are countless other people who excel in their particular fields, but who receive far less attention. Some even have less respect because they haven’t achieved the heights of stardom as some of their counterparts.

Is this fair? No. But who ever said business or life was supposed to be fair?

When it comes to building a business, especially an Internet-based business, earning respect and earning attention are vastly different things.

Think about how much attention we pay to goofy YouTube videos.

More than 100 million YouTube videos are viewed each day by nearly 72 million individual visitors each month.

We may not respect what people are doing in these videos, but if they are outrageous and humorous enough, they earn our attention.

The attention paid to YouTube certainly caught the attention of Google.  The search engine giant acquired YouTube in 2006 for $1.65 billion in stock.

That’s a number that will certainly earn some respect and attention.

The success of YouTube was based purely on marketing and attention.

The viral nature of the videos and the social networking aspect of the community interaction became an explosive combination that was hard to ignore.

Sometimes marketing makes all the difference between obscurity and in-your-face success. How are you marketing your business for greater respect or attention?

Don’t Tase Me, Bro!

YouTube captured our attention early and often and still hasn’t let go.

Just this week Andrew Meyer, a University of Florida student, gained attention during a speaking event with Sen. John Kerry, D-Mass. After pressing Kerry on the topic of the war in Iraq and badgering the senator on other issues, Meyer was asked to quiet down. He refused and was forced to the ground by campus security and hit with a taser.

During the scuffle Meyer uttered an infamous phrase "Don’t tase me, bro!" which was seen and heard on videotape splashed on YouTube and all over the Internet.

Within 24 hours, several versions of "taser" were among the top viral videos on YouTube and other social media sites. The student’s phrase Don’t tase me, bro! appeared almost instantly on T-shirts and other online merchandise. Maybe Meyers didn’t earn our respect, but he sure got our attention. And savvy Internet marketers were able to pounce on the opportunity to cash in on the incident because they were ready.

YouTube has grown from a place to upload "frat boy" gag videos to becoming a co-host for U.S. presidential primary debates. Along the way, we’ve come to respect YouTube as a major media force in the Attention Age. It’s a Web 2.0 success story that has paid off "big time" for its creators and continues to pay off for its fans.

Respect for YouTube came after the attention. But that’s not always the case.

There is our infamous attention hog, Paris Hilton. You’d be hard-pressed to find anyone who respects her, yet she holds the attention of a celebrity-driven media and society. We’re still not sure why

So how does all of this apply to your online business? I’ll let you decide by considering this question.

In the absence of having both, would you rather have respect or attention?

I encourage you to give the question serious thought and share your comments with my blog readers. Respect and attention are not mutually exclusive, but if given the choice, which one would you prefer for yourself and your business?

As you think about that, I’ll leave you with another joke from Rodney Dangerfield, who died in 2004.

"My fan club broke up. The guy died."

Who knows, with more respect and greater attention, that "fan club" may still be alive

So what would you do if 100,000 prospects turned their attention to your online business today?

Would they still respect you in the morning?

Better yet, could you convince them to become your customers?

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  • http://cheeacomcast.net Cheea

    (I’ll prefice this with I am a southern lady (from Alabama) – so imagine the following in a southern drawl)… “Well Rick, you are certainly easy on the eyes…& I would find it highly unlikely that you would NOT be respected in the morning.”

  • http://www.wtpowers.com Tracy ‘Power Gal’ Monteforte

    Grabbing attention is vital. How can you ever gain respect if you don’t first command attention? But all of the attention in the world isn’t worth a hill of beans if you don’t maintain respect. So my opinion is you need to have both. We have built our business on word-of-mouth marketing and without spending one dime on advertising we did over $1.5 million in sales in our first year, all through word of mouth. If our customers didn’t respect us or our services, they wouldn’t have spread the word for us. Delivering value and adding to that value over time is the best way to keep customers and grow your business.

    Always ask yourself if what you are doing is “ecological”. Is it good for you, others and the planet. If the answer is yes, it will garner the respect of others!

    Tracy ‘Power Gal’ Monteforte
    Co Founder, wtpowers.com

  • http://www.alicesmiles.org Andrew J Maduk

    Chicken and egg question in some ways, huh:

    You hear people droll over celebrities or movies stars or whomever is the current media darling… “respect you for you… love you for what you stand for…” and they will they might so brazenly “suck”whatever that star or celebrity what them to “suck…”

    But think of it! If the adoring fans didn’t know that Rick Sheffren “existed…” for example, they would not come nor would it count as such a refractory ordeal…

    You may be the most respectable guy on the planet and no one gets to know you and thus experience you for what you stand for or what your business has to offer – and I mean “no one” in the wider context in this universe gone hog wild for star-status…

    And the same thing applies to businesses… your business is barely surviving but you are doing everything to earn the respect of the industry and your customer… You have respect for the environment; you pay your employees well as well you pay your dues to the State; you have good but untested products because no one knows you and also have great ideas that has not gotten out quite yet…

    And one day you wake and can’t have anymore of your “respect full” life… You want attention for your business but can’t afford the media; so you decided to run naked through the Mayors Day Parade – in full view of all the dignitaries…

    Say your business has something to do with the preservation of nature – hence the naked-instinct… So you take it all off, but you leave a hat on – you have the name of your business on the hat – say the name of your business is respectnature.com and you’re running naked to make that point – you draw attention to your business and to nature – the only thing you’re wearing is your hat which becomes the talk of the whole city…

    Whether you’re a man or woman running naked like that ought a be worth something won’t you say?

    and it does! The whole city takes notice to the point that City Hall feels pissed upon and the police and the otherwise paid pipers (the media), noticed as well and next you know the media and the Law come knocking metaphorically at both your personal and business doors…

    While the law is still roughing you up, the message on your hat is heard and clear! Now you have good attention and bad attention… You are racking in big business and are the talk of the town as well for dissing the mayor and the city…

    You could beat the rap and come off golden or worse case scenario, a bit tarnished but… now at least you are in business… You have attention to drive traffic…

    The point is that most businesses cannot afford the respect they are getting… They need to rough it up a bit in order to re-channel some of that respect fruitfully, to start them on their way to prosperity…

    Innately – just starting out, you have a level of or lack a of respect anyways… In the great grand scheme of things, the accentuating factor of the stasis you and your are in is actually the level of success you have…

    Your level of respect you seem to have means nothing until people perceive you as successful at what you do… And therein lies your true color…

    Disclaimer! I will do everything conscious of the law – will not break the law neither will I encourage or hoodwink others to break the law… But we all must have to find the middle grounds from where to negotiate reality as it applies to whatever we are doing – and in most cases that posits the chicken and egg dilemma to sort out…

    I wouldn’t go as far as to say, #@*k respect, for that’s what criminals do as they set up their kingdoms… But hey, on the other hand, if you really, really want respect as your only halo, at the expense of running a successful for-profit business, I’ll say go sign up and become a clergy!

    But even then, The Holiest of Holy had his share of run-in with the law, in order to bequeath us redemption. Remember?

  • http://www.invisibleworkers.com Janet McNair

    Rich,

    I think self-respect is a big factor. The WAHMs and stay-at-home-Dads that we employee are often looking for respect after being run down by the corporate “rat race”!

    Janet
    http://www.invisibleworkers.com

  • http://seven-figure-business.googlecashpartners.com/blog/ Seven Figure Business

    Wikipedia

    Uses and Indications:
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    Respect is useful for both hierarchical and peer based relationships. Except in extremely rudimentary slave environments, subordinates are required to make decisions about details that are not specifically dictated by a superior. Efficiency demands these details be based on a strong set of values that are complimentary to the needs of the hierarchy. Respect between take offense to.

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  • http://www.infinityfactor.com David Davies

    Great paradox, Rich!

    Couple of thoughts:
    Attention is great if you value the attention generated by the everyday fool. That’s why Big Al’s, a local glorified dollar store in Wiscasset, Maine, features big Al, the owner in its commercials. Big Al is a oversized buffoon with a huge scraggly beard. He wears silly t-shirts with outlandish sayings along with his overalls. He screams at the public from his commercials.

    His store is always busy. I’ve met him in person and Big Al is a savvy, hard headed business man. His commercials appeal to the lower end of the socio-economic spectrum who splurge by buying some junk when they have a couple extra dollars.

    I’ve also heard that so-called crooked companies that are investigated by 60 Minutes often experience so much free publicity that their sales boom.

    There are a million ways to capture attention and not all of them require a sacrifice of respect. Look at Alan Greenspan’s new book, The Age of Turbulence.
    This quiet, soft spoken Republican is highly critical of the Republican party in his book. He is swamped with attention.

    My advice: think twice about how you garner attention. If you value respect, and who doesn’t, then figure out a great way to garner the attention of your true audience. Don’t worry about the Paris Hilton watchers if those idiots aren’t your market. Dave

  • http://www.thebestselfdefensestore.com Floyd

    First I just want to say I appreciate you Rich and all the intelligent and thoughtful comments I read on this subject. And now my 2 cents…

    I am a fairly new website owner and marketer. I have two websites, one that focuses on selfdefense type products and the other on surviellance and hidden cam related products. I started the company knowing that I was commiting a major frowned-up-on-boo boo as far as start up businesses go (and that was(is) not having enough operating capital). However, from my recent and past experiences, I knew if I waited until I had enough capital then I’d still be dreaming instead of doing and most likely would not be participating in this blog.

    Relatively speaking, the people that know me respect me. I work in the security industry and have had people that did not necessarily like me but they respected me (not my job but my professionalism). I work in a high traffic area and meet a lot of people for the first time through work related interaction, and I must say there is a greater than 90% respect like interaction or respectful exchange. So, in my dire need for customers with very limited income resources, I would have to say that the attention would be the most important for me at this point because I know if I am giving the chance, I will earn most peoples respect.

  • http://www.laviniachow.isagenix.com Lavinia Chow

    Thank-you for sending me an email regarding about respect especially in the field of the marketing business.

    Have you ever experienced meeting strangers in the retail industries who have treated you with bad manners as if he and/or she were your boss etc…? For the past two years, I have encountered strange situations with people especially in the contract business. They do not really hear what I said especially for the true cause. I guess people are mostly for themselves?!

    I feel people need to truly communicate with each other in business. I do definitely need respect from people. The people who truly respect me do not live in Ontario especially in Toronto. Can you help me with a new website that would assist me to gain true respect?

    I am looking forward to hear from you soon. Thank you.

  • http://www.topshelfarticles.com/Professional_Article_Writing.html Brian Ankner

    Attention can be gotten freely with little real effort.

    Respect has to be earned and will cost dearly if lost.

    3 things will acheive success if implimented from the start of your business career, Honesty, Integrity and Consistency.

    Start with all three and make them the main focus of your business and you will be successful, no matter what you are selling!

  • Alexis

    Hi Rich:
    You made a great point–respect and attention are two, very different things. And that’s a tough call…what should you want: attention which equals more income? Or respect, which lets you sleep easier at night? However, for an online business, I believe that attention is more important. If you’re going for respect in what you do (versus gaining attention and more income), then you probably shouldn’t be in the online business–because attention is everything there. But, is it possible to get both? Can you receive maximum attention, make money nowadays–while still holding people’s respect?

  • http://www.pawpersuasion.com Megan

    Not meaning to be cynical – but rather lamenting the truth of the direction in which our society is going – I have to agree with Ralph Dreifus’ comment above.

    There are those of us who believe in helping others by reaching out and over-delivering with true VALUE – utility, product/ info/ coaching, price, and service.

    Yes, there’s a quick buck (and big bucks) to be made with aggressive marketing skills regardless of product, but I cannot in good conscience promote something that I don’t truly believe to be the BEST for our clients and website visitors. Nor can the incredible person I personally work to promote, DogWhisperWoman, Rena.

    If I have no honor and integrity – deserving of RESPECT – then I have nothing – No matter how much money I might make. Yes, this honorable process can make for slower growth, but I believe it is surer and more sustainable growth – the kind that only a relationship with respect can deliver.

    But then, how can we help people if they don’t even know about us, our services, our information? If they don’t find us, click on our message, or stay long enough to read?

    That requires ATTENTION – getting it and holding it. So thank you, Rich, for your incisive comments and providing this excellent “forum.”

    Bright on, Brian Ankner …! [His comment above.]

    Amber with Rena
    http://www.pawpersuasion.com

  • http://www.pawpersuasion.com Megan

    Hey Rich!

    I needed to change email address on my subscription to your excellent newsletter (change it to the one I entered on this form) – but the link you have at the bottom for “unsubscribe or change subscription” takes me to a page that ONLY lets me unsubscribe. I don’t want that!

    So please change that “unsubscribe” page to have TWO options – one for us to change our email addresses to ensure continued service!

    Thanks!

  • Maxjohan

    Can i get your attention please. ?

    This respect thing on the other end is something I have been puzzled with for a long time. The more I think about it the more I tend to realize that it’s far more complicated than just giving people the things they want all the time. Yes, it’s a nice and warm thought but mankind given the chance doesn’t work all on logical thinking.

    Sometimes you need to be bold and
    cold and vice verse.

    Life tastes 10x better if you had a gun to
    your head the night before.

  • http://www.pawpersuasion.com Megan

    I couldn’t agree more with Maxjohan. There is a terrible trap in being a “people pleaser” [see Dr. Braiker’s book, “The Disease to Please,” and former Miss America, Sandra LeSourd’s “The Compulsive Woman” – dysfunctionalities that can apply to men, too!).

    You must be true to yourself. You must be forthright. You don’t help anyone by being a “yes man,” and don’t attract anyone by being milk toast.

    Dare to be different. Dare to be yourself. Dare to debunk myths and boldly speak your beliefs and professional prescriptions.

    It’s not always what people WANT to hear… but it can be what they NEED to hear!

    Yes, sometimes the instruction can be delivered in soft, sensitive terms (my usual personality) … But other times it will only get the necessary attention (needed to help someone!) if it hits them straight in the face.

    Be forceful when the situation calls for it – but never be coarse. And always be respectful … even when delivering a punch. Just be sure your motives are pure.

    Not everyone will love you … but you will earn RESPECT!

  • http://lucreazaacasa.blogspot.com Teodor Bita

    Use the same level for people, work and your life and respect evrithing. But first, you must belive in you.
    You will earn respect, it’s just question of time.

  • http://notloadedrightnow Anna

    attention or respect—

    hahahha

    both are in place. the stretch of an own attention with respectful hand, wins the respectful appreciation of those interested in any dealings with us.
    Both are needed – in balance and loving action.
    Loving attention is nothing more or less the actions we take …first toward ourselves…which we stretch to others…
    the gift
    of appreciation and growing both bussiness and the private life.

    I appreciate your inputs
    Anna

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