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I feel awkward writing this blog post.
It’s not the topic, the timing, or any personal event causing me to feel uncomfortable. Nope, it’s nothing like that.
You see, it’s been 8 days since my last post. And while that may not seem like a long time… as I sit here writing to you, my absence feels like a 50-foot wall I must scale.
It’s weird.
On the one hand, I’m desperate to get writing again. But, because of my absence I feel my first post has to be better than normal.
Of course, the more I focus on how great this post needs to be, the less likely it will ever get written. If left unchecked, it could even prevent me from writing altogether.
So, screw it. I am not going to let my brain play this little game. Instead, I’ll just tell you what’s on my mind. This way, tomorrow, it’ll be like old times again. Agreed?
So, here’s my thought for today…
Here’s what I mean.
With the increasing demands of the Attention Age - emails pile up, some tasks are left undone, and a few phone calls are sometimes not returned.
We’ve all been there, right?
But what happens when it’s you on the receiving end. Waiting for an important answer you need to move forward. It sucks to be kept in limbo, but what can you do about it?
You’ve got a few options:
- Track down the non-responsive party through a more immediate communication channel like the phone, instant messaging, or personal visit.
- Get in touch with someone who either works with or for the party you are waiting to hear from. And have them pass the message along.
- Include deadlines in your communications and how things will proceed if you don’t get the answers your waiting for.
- Establish ground rules for communication so you’re clear how to escalate a request when there’s no response.
I have used all the above options at different times. And they are all effective.
What about you? Do you have any different strategies to prevent been dragged down by silence? If so, please share them below, because I believe silence is increasingly going to be a standard response that must be planned for.
You see, just like this blog post, and my own uneasy feelings getting back into the swing of things. You don’t want your partners to procrastinate even further because of the delays already taken place.
That means if it’s important to you – the onus is on you. And you must do whatever it takes to get the ball rolling again..
I really believe this is the new challenge in working with others. Unfortunately, I think it’ll only get worse with time.
That’s why I am curious what you think, and what solutions you may have already come up with. Go ahead and share them below.
To higher profits,
rich
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Hi Richard,
I heard you’re very sick. So I would like to wish you fast recovery.
Hope you feel better tomorrow so you don’t prevent us from reading your interesting posts. I became addicted to you I check the blog everyday
It was nice seeing you writing again as I missed your posts very much.
Take care of yourself
Amal
Hi Rich,
A great and timely post (as I wait for an answer on serveral subjects)
I have had potential JVs planned and not happen, but I guess thats part of business.
I guess positioning is a big part, if you appear in a position of “need somebody” - then you are in a position of weakness and the appearance given of you chasing- (nobody wants to be caught)
But if you come across in a position of power,(or of mutual position) in that the person needs you in a timely fashion, then you have more leverage to work with.
Maybe the scarcity of timed response to emails, in saying that you have to move on a project due to having several projects moving forward (which is always true)
Also asking to confirm the message when they receive the information may be a start, plus following up by re-sending emails, asking to check if they received it.
Best Regards
Paul Easton
A Plan for Free Web Traffic
http://www.SEOTrainingLive.com/
Rich,
Glad to see you are writing again.
It is interesting how we start craving information on a daily basis, especially when we don’t have access to it.
I was really curious why your blog hadn’t been updated in the last week, and was disappointed when I checked each day.
Sounds like you were under the weather, hope that’s behind you!
Your messages impact all of us differently, I for one look to your blog to make sure my attention is focused and I learn something valuable from you every day.
We missed you.
Welcome Back.
Hi Rich
In the middle of silence our fears have a lovely chance to grow. It is sort of like when we were kids trying to go to sleep at night. The room was dark and in the silence of a house winding down our fears turned cupboards into monsters, creaks into assassins and smells into danger.
When we hit silence in business our inner 2 year old comes out to play. What if they don’t like me … What if I quoted too high … What if … What if … What if.
Just like a kid who learns the only way to face the fears is to turn on the light to see what is really there, as business owners we need also to be able to confront our fears.
So yes, follow up via all the regular ways. If you still get silence add in some humor “Hey - I wrote to you last week but I am worried the sock monster from the washing machine migrated to my email server and has been eating my emails. Did you get my last email?”
Be brave - actually call them rather than rely on email. With the social media we can forget a phone call is still OK.
And if all else fails send them a note with “I haven’t heard from you about xyz so I am interpreting that as you have chosen to go with another provider. You have a great product/idea that I know will do really well on the market. I look forward to hearing of your success and to touching base again in the future.”
That will generally flush out the genuine people who do want to talk with you, from those hiding from you as they are too embarassed to call you.
Glad you scaled the wall Rich - we missed you!
Ingrid
My vote goes to including dateline, by far the most effective.
Hi Rich!
It is interesting you brought this subject up because I have been experiencing a similar “Stuck in Limbo” kind of situation. I have received your Business Accelerator course and am very eager to utilize the promised bonuses.
Are we going to get an update on the bonuses soon?
I ask that question with all due respect and eagerness to move forward…In no way am I trying to be rude or mean. Just would like to get an update…that’s all. EXCITED!!!
Hope you feel better soon!
Robert
Silence -
For anyone who has a business built the right way, the consequence of having silence should not have a negative impact on the business.
A correctly built company should have a system that pursues the silenced.
..for a new business where every collaboration may has the potential to create a huge impact on its potential growth, it should be well worth putting in more effort to pursue the party that isn’t doing anything.
Having a protocol of communication of having something like at least one e-mail a day to at least have both parties know that they are indeed still there helps; and preferably having report on the progress, a report using protocols (stringent standards on symbols, etc.) so that it can be outsourced without having to deal with PR.
…and the protocol should have conditions that removes fear of having one party back out, because completely eradicating the project from the schedule and minds of both parties is better than a cat-mouse game which may cause more trouble in the long run; and if too many pile up, it may take up a significant portion of the company’s efforts to have a negative impact.
In my opinion, everything should be set up so that there is no way it can have a negative impact on your business; and only having a potential positive impact.
Yes, and one point you stated - to plan ahead about what to do if this actually happens but additionally, also plan the whole collaboration in a way where there won’t be any negative impact on your business at all no matter what happens - things like only letting the public know AFTER it has been reached a certain level of progress so that there are no disappointments to any customer at all and other things that may have a negative impact.
In the first place, never set up the business have to depend too much on any one thing, especially if it is something irreplaceable.
Jeremy Wong
http://www.JeremyWong.name
…and I moved away from the main question.
Silence; with each prompt to get an answer from the other party, the chances that the person or company missed it by accident lowers significantly; and I believe one with genuine intentions of doing business with you will update you regardless and not just leave silence.
However, you have to assure the person that you will not get disappointed over slow progress or what have you; so the other party won’t be afraid of expressing any faults and further plans can be made to push it back, etc.
…but if the silence is there even with all that, I would assume it is a no and move on, and possibly create plans to handle a comeback if it is worthy of one. That way, the business can just move on without putting too much effort on something that -may- be wasted.
That’s all.
Jeremy
JeremyWong.name
…and Rich, shouldn’t you have a system that makes sure your blog gets updated more frequently with series of pre-planned topics that can be used if anything happens?
A friendly critique.
Jeremy
Is this a do to others as you would want to be done to?
I suspect that we are all guilty of not responding quickly but at the same time been victims.
So why do we delay giving answers to other people?
Sometimes it is sheer pressure of work. There are only 24 hours per day.
Sometimes it is because we are genuinely undecided. We can see good and bad and not yet reached our verdict.
Sometimes the approach has been made in such a clumsy way as to be clearly a waste of time. Remember if you waste someone’s time, you waste a small proportion of their life. Also remember that, the more bad approaches we receive, the more cynical we become.
Sometimes we don’t realise that there is a “deadline”.
Paul Simister
http://www.yourprofitcoachblog.com
It’s tough to know whether silence means no, especially since so much communication is via email today, and quite simple some email is misread, caught in spam filters, or for whatever reason is not read.
Email is becoming LESS effective. I have a client that simply cannot receive my emails, and we cannot figure out why. They just disappear somewhere.
Something I do in an email I want a reply to is a little linguistic trick to encourage a reply. Something along the lines of “Thanks for your time and I look forward to hearing back from you.” That plants a seed of replying from the very beginning.
And if I need to send a follow-up asking why they haven’t replied yet, I try to do it in a way that doesn’t come across as “Hellooooo?? Anyone there??? Did you get my email????? Did you??”
Depending on the context of the situation, I might find a reason to provide “an update” on the situation, and include the “I look forward to hearing from you,” or I might find a reason to send them some news article or information or …
If push comes to shove and all diplomatic methods have failed, I’ll flat-out state I need a reply and give the reasons why. If I know their phone number, this is the point when I’ll consider calling them.
If it’s something that I *can* let go and not worry about consequences, after the above step, I’ll wash my hands of them. And, being the personality type I am, I’ll tell at least five of my friends about them.
See what happens, Rich? You write a nice blog post sharing your thoughts and feelings on a pretty important topic and all you can hear is crickets. I mean, 13 people aren’t exactly crickets to some bloggers but to someone of your stature, it sure is.
I wish you were more down-to-earth and accessible… I know you know a lot but there’s a few things I could demonstrate to you about human nature and the relationship could be mutually beneficial… my specialty is in seeing opportunity where none appears to exist and in spotting synergies… ways of combinging things for exponentially better results.
(And I’m not just talking about butterfly marketing which is a type of synergy but one that forms a funnel rather than an accelerator.)
Anyways, til then… best wishes,
Sam
Hi Rich,
I say the phone is the best tool if there is a situation like this. It is immediate and defining, even if you have to leave a voicemail.
I think that a lot of the time we are afraid of the answer that we might get so we just rely on email, or worse yet, we wait for them to respond. If this is a prospect you a pursuing then you can bet that they have a few hundred other things to deal with than getting back to your quote. By calling them you get their undivided attention and an answer, even if the answer is that they havent decided yet.
Email is a great tool but the phone is still the best business tool, period.
Roger
Hey Rich,
Great post and certainly very appropriate in my case. I’m excitedly waiting in anticipation for your BAP course to arrive so I can get into the meat of what I see you’re already starting to discuss in the bonus teleseminars.
I know that it must take quite some organizational skill to get all those packages sent out on time and I’m sure you guys probably have a ton of orders to fulfill, so I guess waiting more than 20 days for my delivery is something I can live with (even though you did a pretty darn good job of getting me salivating to hit the order button without hesitation:-)
But I guess what is a little disconcerting and certainly very relevant to this post is that I haven’t received any response from your support staff about whether my package has actually been shipped and when I can expect it. So in this case I am kinda left wondering whether silence does really mean NO.
Or maybe this is a new twist on Jeff Walker’s PLF - ‘keepin em hungry - even after they’ve paid’? Hey I’m not trying to get up in anyone’s face here, and I certainly enjoy learning from other people’s launch strategies, but 26 days of waiting is starting to make me so hungry that I may just hop a plain and come pick up my package myself (or is that just the delirium kickin in? - I don’t know). All I do know is that my brain’s belly is grumbling over not getting to sink it’s teeth into all that juicy business growth material.
Please send me my emergency BAP meal supplement before my brain devours itself!!
With Gratitude
Well, Rich, there’s always…
Camping out. or
Break-it-down. or
Priority Sequencing. or
Bribery. or
Blackmail!
Let me explain. I had a little trick when I worked at Boeing in Huntington Beach, CA. If I needed something, I would ‘camp out’ in someone’s office until I got it. Not always practical, it does tend to speed up SOME things though.
And some people just don’t seem to do well with anything larger than ‘can you do this one little thing for me?’ like one fellow at Boeing. I always got my work done because I ‘figured him out’ and that is how he worked best, one little thing at a time. If I wanted some CAD (computer aided drafting) job bigger than one or two little things, fugettaboutit!
Learn what works per individual.
Ah, Priority Sequencing. Ever have/heard of a contract job where the contractors/workers were MIA (missing in action)? Well, you just got Priority Sequenced.
What that means is that someone else talked to the contractor/project manager and offered something like 3-5 times the usual rate with the question “so how fast can you get this job done for me?” in the mix. Wouldn’t YOU work a little faster, get a few more people on the job or whatever it takes to get that task done for a client?
That’s why they aren’t at YOUR house right now…
Then there’s Bribery! This is something like Priority Sequencing only it doesn’t always mean money. Does the other party like Broadway plays? Do they like Baseball games? Some special chocolates from a store local only to you? Or do they need something from you, some work or other that THEY are waiting for?
Any of these, and more, can be used as leverage for you to get some action! Again, it’s learning someone’s hot buttons. What will work for them? It isn’t always easy to figure out but when you do, it’s well worth starting your message (in the ’subject’?) with something that will spark a response in that other person, based on your bribe.
And last, certainly not least!, is Blackmail. Not a pretty term and certainly not a recommendation or your first tactic to try (IMHO) yet maybe something helpful - people want to avoid pain more than they want pleasure.
With that said, what could you mention that might ‘encourage’ someone to your way of thinking? Do you know something that might be used against the other party to prompt a response? It might start with “shall I tell so-and-so about…” to see what you get. It’s dirty pool yet what if nothing else works?
It’s all negotiation, like anything else. Just raise a kid for 20 years, you’ll know what I mean.
Pam Hoffman
http://seminarlist.blogspot.com
I can relate
I’ve been meaning to write back to someone and the longer I waited the more it seemed like I had to write something really significant to make up for the length of time that’s gone by.
Reading this, I think I just write a quick note and get it off in the mail.
Thanks for the reminder to just do it!
David